A rude student can quickly get under a teacher’s skin. When disrespected, it is easy for a teacher to take it personally. However, it would be a huge blunder. If teachers take the behavior personally, they would most likely react in manners that make managing the specific student’s behavior much more difficult. By refraining from any adverse reactions, a teacher can hold the disrespectful student responsible while at the same time, influence future behavior.
Take a quick step back
If a student is rude, as a teacher, you must be willing to take a quick step back. In other words, you must resist the thought of admonishing the student.
Avoid taking it personally
Rude behavior from a student is a psychological trait that has nothing to do with you. Hence, avoid taking it personally. A teacher’s responsibility is to support the student in realizing the mistake so that it does not happen again.
Do not lose your focus
Take a deep breath and control any anger that is rising inside you. You would be much more effective if you maintain emotional control.
Immediately after the incident, do not speak. Just pause and maintain eye contact with the concerned student. Let the student recollect rude behavior and repent for it.
Deescalate the situation
It is vital to deescalate the situation and end it expeditiously. If you do not react, the student would not be able to respond. Once you walk away from the situation, the incident would be over.
Get on with your routine work
Proceed with your daily work as if nothing happened. Leave the student alone and do not talk about the incident. Initiate any action only after you are convinced that the student has mentally moved on from the situation.
Enforce action plan
Once the student calms down, approach, and deliver your consequence. Make the student understand that he or she broke a specific rule of the classroom management plan; it is the misbehavior that you dislike, not the student.
Report the incident
For any rude behavior, the student’s parents must be informed. It also makes the parents accountable for their child’s actions.
Wait for remorse to set in
When a teacher manages rude behavior in this manner, without shouting, or taking it personally, even the most stubborn student would realize his or her mistake. The natural reaction would be a sincere and unforced apology.
Be an attentive listener
Teachers must encourage students to open up and communicate their feelings/concerns.
Set an example
Teachers must model the behavior they expect from their students. They must be considerate of their students' feelings as they want them to be of others.
Be aware of cultural differences
Teachers must be aware of cultural differences; some action is viewed as challenging in some cultures and respectful in others.